Sweet baby Jesus on a stick. WHAT is wrong with people? I don't know if it's a cultural thing, a generation thing, or what but common sense, human decency and social etiquette have died a horrible death and I didn't even know it.
I wanted to write about this a few weeks ago but I didn't want one of the people who reads this to feel targeted. Just when I had forgotten the incident, it happened again. It's now been over five or six times now where a woman (wtf! ALWAYS women! Come on, we're supposed to be comrades in arms wtf happened?) felt that it would be completely acceptable to gesture towards my post twins gut and ask me if I'm pregnant again. No matter how many times I get asked, I always end up getting really upset about it. After I had the babies, my stomach basically deflated and now it hangs over and it's disgusting. I hate it. No matter how many sit ups I do, it won't subside. I look in the mirror and what I see (under clothes) is fine, but then some idiot comes along and basically calls me fat.
Today for instance. I was at a training session and I was sitting with someone I used to work with. She's not originally from Canada, (this is important). She says to me out of fucking nowhere, "Are you having another baby or are you getting fatter?" Word for word, I'm not kidding. I looked her in the eye and said "I'm getting fatter." I hoped that would be the end of it but no. She kept on going. "Oh you're like me. I carry my weight there too." I was giving many physical cues that I was not interested in continuing the convo but she kept going. I said, "I don't know if it's a cultural thing, but that's incredibly impolite to say to someone. Very rude." Annnnnd she kept on going on about her own weight until I very sharply snapped "DROP. IT." That shut her up nicely.Afterward, I did apologize for snapping at her but I again pressed that it wasn't something that people should say to one another, even if they're very comfortable together. She apologized again and that was the end of it.
Do I need to educate you on this? Because if I do, please do me a huge favour and kick yourself in the ass as hard as you can. If you have difficulty, get a friend or your spouse or neighbour and get them to do it. You NEVER ask someone if they're pregnant, even if they're eating five meals in one sitting and are complaining about morning sickness. Do not EVER assume. Some of us are fat, face it. Some of us had kids fairly recently and are finding it hard to get back into shape. Nobody is more critical of our flabby guts than ourselves. I beat myself up enough over it, I don't need you pointing it out to me. If you see me on the operating table with a baby being pulled out of my vagina, THEN you can ask, although by that time I technically won't be pregnant....and I will think you're a fucking idiot anyway, so better not ask!
So the next time you're wondering about someone, keep your trap shut. If they are, they will tell you...and that's only if they feel that you should be privy to such information. And if you JUST met someone, don't be a fucking knob and ask "Is that your first?" like I had to deal with at my boyfriend's work Xmas party last December.
Manners go a long way...I just wish there were more people out there who had any.
*** PS I find it ironically amusing that the adsense bar down below is advertising a Slimband. Oh keywords!
I wanted to write about this a few weeks ago but I didn't want one of the people who reads this to feel targeted. Just when I had forgotten the incident, it happened again. It's now been over five or six times now where a woman (wtf! ALWAYS women! Come on, we're supposed to be comrades in arms wtf happened?) felt that it would be completely acceptable to gesture towards my post twins gut and ask me if I'm pregnant again. No matter how many times I get asked, I always end up getting really upset about it. After I had the babies, my stomach basically deflated and now it hangs over and it's disgusting. I hate it. No matter how many sit ups I do, it won't subside. I look in the mirror and what I see (under clothes) is fine, but then some idiot comes along and basically calls me fat.
Today for instance. I was at a training session and I was sitting with someone I used to work with. She's not originally from Canada, (this is important). She says to me out of fucking nowhere, "Are you having another baby or are you getting fatter?" Word for word, I'm not kidding. I looked her in the eye and said "I'm getting fatter." I hoped that would be the end of it but no. She kept on going. "Oh you're like me. I carry my weight there too." I was giving many physical cues that I was not interested in continuing the convo but she kept going. I said, "I don't know if it's a cultural thing, but that's incredibly impolite to say to someone. Very rude." Annnnnd she kept on going on about her own weight until I very sharply snapped "DROP. IT." That shut her up nicely.Afterward, I did apologize for snapping at her but I again pressed that it wasn't something that people should say to one another, even if they're very comfortable together. She apologized again and that was the end of it.
Do I need to educate you on this? Because if I do, please do me a huge favour and kick yourself in the ass as hard as you can. If you have difficulty, get a friend or your spouse or neighbour and get them to do it. You NEVER ask someone if they're pregnant, even if they're eating five meals in one sitting and are complaining about morning sickness. Do not EVER assume. Some of us are fat, face it. Some of us had kids fairly recently and are finding it hard to get back into shape. Nobody is more critical of our flabby guts than ourselves. I beat myself up enough over it, I don't need you pointing it out to me. If you see me on the operating table with a baby being pulled out of my vagina, THEN you can ask, although by that time I technically won't be pregnant....and I will think you're a fucking idiot anyway, so better not ask!
So the next time you're wondering about someone, keep your trap shut. If they are, they will tell you...and that's only if they feel that you should be privy to such information. And if you JUST met someone, don't be a fucking knob and ask "Is that your first?" like I had to deal with at my boyfriend's work Xmas party last December.
Manners go a long way...I just wish there were more people out there who had any.
*** PS I find it ironically amusing that the adsense bar down below is advertising a Slimband. Oh keywords!
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