Umm...what?

http://www.ottawacitizen.com/news/court+peeks+into+bedrooms+nation+with+sexual+consent+case/3785741/story.html

What an unusual thing to read in the news...a woman took her former long time partner to court because he put a dildo in her butt while she was passed out due to him choking her during sex. The choking was with her consent but the bum stuff wasn't. Now the question is, was it rape?

Sighhhh people. I tell you, this is why things like "Safe words" were invented. If you want someone to choke you, you'll probably pass out. If you pass out, your partner can dance a jig on your forehead, dress you up like a gorilla and call you Daisy and you'd be none the wiser. You have to be specific with these kinky tendencies. If you say "I want you to choke me" you have to add "and not put things in my orifices, or do anything gross, or do anything I would normally say no to, and especially not assume that I'm going to like what you would be doing" -cuz if you don't, you're probably going to wake up with things in your butt.

Obviously I am going to say that if a person doesn't give you the go ahead to do something, you probably shouldn't...especially if they're passed out. That's just depraved and sick. Seek help. Now.

To flip the coin because I'm an asshole, she was using this as leverage in her custody battle for their child. So who the flip knows...